On last Sunday, I was on my stroll in morning in the Lingabudhi Park near my house. One person crossed over and turned to me, then asked: Aren't you Ibbani Babu? I said yes and looked at him trying to locate who he was. Without giving any strain to my mind, he introduced himself. He is Mahesh, now a lecturer in Kannada in Christ University. While he was doing his degree in Maharaja's college, Mysore, he has participated in the cultural programs I had conducted. He was in Goutham Hostel at that time. I was running a monthly magazine, Ibbani in Kannada. Prof. J R Laxmana Rao, famous science writer called me Ibbani Babu first time. But I did not carry it throughout.
Suddenly I located him. He has enthralled us by singing beautiful folk songs in the programs. Now, he has got wife and a small kid. He teaches PU students in Christ PU residential college, near Bidadi.
While sharing about the boys who study in the college, Mahesh said that parents would not mind spending money for their children if they get good education and discipline. Parents want strict institutions where their children groom with highly disciplined. For a year, the fee is around 2 lakhs. Compared to my PU study without any fees, it is really a shocking figure.
Now a days, parents have become illiterate in the case of their children. When children grow into adolescence, parents become blank. They just don't know what to do with them. Adolescents obviously behave hyperactive, outstanding, overcharged, disoriented, and diffused. Unless parents get training exclusively on adolescent behaviour at this point of time, it would be hell at home. The conflict between parents and the child becomes common. So parents find a quick and easy solution: put the child in some 'strict' institution to shape him/her.
Gradually, child gets into a different world. His thought process gets changed. For him, parents become a source of money or materials. A kind of business relationship develops in a subtle way and slowly the intimate and emotional relationship fades away.
It is disastrous!
A mechanical relationship between parents and the son/ daughter would prevail upon in the days to come. Relationship would confine to job placement, marriage, property sharing, family functions etc. You have to read it with the increasing number of Homes for the aged, and murders of parents by children.
Economical calculations will, no doubt, harm the emotional and intimate relationship, not only between parents and children, but also between husband and wife.
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